Compassion, Empathy, Strength and Courage

The Dalai Lama says that our whole society has a “materialistic culture”. Emphasizing much in itself brings more anxiety and more loneliness. When you focus too much on yourself, you “become disconnected and alienated from others”. In the end, you become alienated from yourself. In the materialistic way of life, there is no concept of love, but of just work, twenty-four hours a day, like a machine. So we ultimately become part of that “large moving machine”. We are social animals, and cooperation is necessary for our survival but cooperation is entirely based on trust, when there is trust, people are brought together – whole nations are brought together…

The need for connection with others is such a fundamental part of who we are as human beings. Our basic human nature is compassionate; the problem is that children go to schools where they are not taught to nurture these deeper human values so their basic human potential becomes dormant. We are same human beings. When we relate to others from a place of compassion, it goes to the first level, the human level, not the secondary level of difference. Then we can have compassion even for our enemy. When you have a more compassionate mind, and cultivate warm-heartedness, the whole atmosphere around you becomes more positive and friendlier.

Much depends on our attitude. If you have an open heart and are filled with trust and friendship, even if you are physically alone, you will never feel lonely. The only thing that will bring happiness is affection and warm-heartedness. This really brings inner strength and self confidence, reduces fear, develops trust, and trust brings friendship. Kindness and compassion is the antidote to loneliness. We don’t have to wait for others to open their hearts to us. By opening our heart to them, we could feel connected to them whether on a mountain top or in the middle of Manhattan.

On the other side, if one is filled with negative judgment and anger, then it will feel separate from other people. You will feel lonely. If you feel fear and distrust, other people will distance themselves. They will feel cautious, suspicious and distrustful. Then comes the feeling of loneliness. When we are concerned with the well being of other human beings, that inner door opens and we are able to communicate very easily with other people, openheartedness and warm-heartedness

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Gharsanay Amin as recognition of her work got the “Emerging Young Leader’s Award” in 2017 by the US State Department; the second Degree Promotion from the President of Afghanistan, H.E. Dr.Ashraf Ghani; and the Responsible Citizen Award by the H.E. First Lady of Afghanistan, Rula Ghani. She is the organizer of the Young Women Leadership Conference, which provides leadership workshops for girls ages 14-19. Successful conferences have been held in Kabul, Bamyan, and Nangarhar, Ghor, Samangan, and Heart provinces with more than 500 beneficiaries. She is the co-founder of the Global Youth Development Initiative where students are connected to professional and peer mentors from across the world for academic advising and international exposure. Gharsanay is the co-organizer of the first ever Model UN in Afghanistan. As the team ambassador in the Everywhere Everywoman Project, she has been a part of a team whose mission is to develop the first ever-international Treaty on Violence Against Women from 2015-2017. She is changing the hearts and minds of the Ulema through the Afghan Girls Sustainable Education project which aims to increase enrollment and decrease drop out rates. Over 100 Ulema, tribal leaders and elders representing 21 districts from all over Nangarhar province have participated and she plans additional workshops in Jalalabad and then Laghman Province. Gharsanay recently won the Enterprise for Peace Scholarship representing Afghanistan in the One Young World Summit, 2018. She also secured a scholarship for the Generation Change Fellowship which is a two years abroad fellowship by the United States Institute of Peace. She is a Global Youth Change Ambassador by the Roundtable Global. She is also an alumni of Philia Women Empowerment, a platform provided by AUAF. She with a team represented AUAF in Willem Vis Moot Court Competition in Kuwait and in Hong Kong (getting the runner up award which for the first time a team from Afghanistan made it to that level), in ICC (International Criminal Court) Moot Court Competition in Hague, Netherlands, in International Dispute Resolution Competition held in India, and in IIT Mumbai Debate Tournament in India. She was one of the Youth Leaders in Youth Leader’s Exchange with His Holliness the Dalai Lama discussing the issues of healing and resilience and how to support youth peace building, encourage exchange with each other and manage conflict with non-violent ways and to develop inner peace. She was representing Afghanistan in the 9th Ministerial Meeting in the USA, Community of Democracies Civil Society Conference. Gharsanay was also selected to attend the Women2Women International Leadership Conference in Boston in 2015. She is a graduate of AUAF with securing high honor and honor awards almost in all the semesters and is a successful finalist for the 2019-2020 Fulbright cohort for Master’s degree. She has been teaching assistant in two courses offered at AUAF namely the Informal dispute resolution class and in the University success class. She did research in the rule of law and development in Afghanistan with Stanford Professor, Mehdi Hakimi

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